Developing poise and elegance is all about learning how to maintain an attitude of grace and composure.
Have you ever wondered why there are only a few women who have the perfect poise these days? Perhaps it is because we no longer value proper elegance, sitting with good posture or having good manners.
Definition of Poise?
Poise is composure and dignity of manner. It is a graceful and elegant bearing in a person.
I believe that a poised woman is the fruit of elegance. To develop poise one must first learn to be elegant.
You can be poised without necessarily being elegant. For example, making an effort to be composed even though you’ve walked into an important meeting late and looking disheveled.
However, that is not the type of poise that is admired in elegant women. Being poised is not just having composure but also having dignity as well.
A poised man or woman possesses elegant mannerisms. Their body movements and gestures exude a certain level of sophistication, confidence and style.
For example, confidence and elegance is always exhibited in the way a poised woman walks, talks and conducts herself. Her mannerisms are fluid and gentle, yet strong and purposeful.
“I still do believe in carrying yourself a certain way and I do my best to be somewhat of a role model. I’m not perfection but a human being. I’m not the Lord, but I do accept that responsibility and that’s why I do try to carry myself with confidence, with poise, with grace and with class.” – LeToya Luckett
“When I say I need a queen, I need a woman of principle and poise.” – Omarion
“Carrying yourself with poise and joy and peace within – that’s sexy.” – Leah LaBelle
What Is The Opposite Of Poise?
A person lacking poise is the image of insecurity, a person that seems a bit is lost in a contrived identity, clumsy, awkward or uncomfortable in their own skin.
Class, elegance, confidence and sophistication will never go out of style. Being hood, street, sexualized, out-spoken, loud or a degenerate is not a good look.
It was never a good look, society just fooled you into thinking that being crass, aggressive, disruptive and ignorant was cool while laughing at you and calling you trash behind your back the whole time…
Why would anyone NOT want to carry themselves with a sense of dignity, respect and class? When did having class become corny?
And when did ignorance and degenerateness become the preferred or accepted norm?
You cannot demand or expect respect from society if you exhibit dissolute or intemperate behavior since this behavior is not deemed worthy of respect anywhere in the world.
How Do You Acquire Poise?
Developing poise is all about learning how to maintain an attitude of grace and composure. If you are a person that tends to be stressed or in a hurry all the time, learn some techniques to calm yourself so you can maintain a positive perspective.
If you’re a bit fidgety and nervous as a person, learn how to be still in your spirit and gentler in your nature. Lastly, definitely work on improving your posture! Since posture plays a big part in the visual element of poise.
Also, relearning and appreciating the value of patience, self-love, humility, grace, respect, understanding, empathy and compassion is the key to inner peace and outer grace.
The kind of learned behavior that’s positive and respectful is not just for the sake of becoming a valued member of society.
These relearned abilities and traits will also bring you inner peace, confidence, happiness and a level of elegance as a person.
Remember The Definition Of Poise
Being poised is all about composure, dignity of manner, grace and a level of elegance bearing within a person.
Everyone is a work in progress…you just have to do the work!
Don’t continue to allow society to program you into the person they want you to be, which is dumb, sexualized, disrespectful, non-confident, selfish and indifferent.
If you live a busy lifestyle like I do, it really helps to write things down. I’m still quite traditional and old-school about this. I write everything down, or I will leave myself a voice note on my phone.
This helps me maintain a sense of peace and calm as I navigate through my busy day without the stress of having to commit things and tasks to memory.
It also helps as it pertains to organizing or prioritizing tasks & errands I need to tackle to prevent panic whenever I forget to do something.
Study how to exhibit good manners and learn some formal etiquette so that your well-perceived and comfortable in every situation.
On a daily basis make an effort to grow and work on establishing a strong, elegant yet humble level of self-confidence.
Watch movies and TV shows that feature characters that exude class and sophistication. Study the movements of those women or men.
Closely observe how they walk and talk and move.
Learn to Dance
Take a dance class! Dancers generally have beautiful poise & grace in their movements and gestures. This develops naturally through classical forms of dance.
Learn To Love Yourself
This is one of the most important things to learn. If you don’t love & respect yourself how can you affectively embody confidence, grace and elegance? This is just not possible.
Confidence comes from the love, grace and acceptance you extend to yourself. This confidence then resonates through you and your actions in the form of poise, elegance and sophistication.
Written by Sophia Lenore
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